Hi Mammas

Well, I have learnt so much more since the last newsletter, and experienced so much more.  So, here I am to share it with you:

Feel our Emotions.   It may not be an easy thing to do this especially when we go back to our past and feel where the hurt has originated.  We are all told to ‘stay in the now moment’ – and yes, this is true, and by processing fully the emotions that come up for each 100 times a day we do need to stay in the moment to FEEL it and however the past emotional injuries are what truly needs healing & releasing. 

People say “the past is over “ or “Let go of the past & stay in the moment” – however, life will keep bringing you people/ situations that bring up this PAST emotional injury (ie the first time you had this emotional hurt and suppressed it) UNTIL you go back to this original time to feel it and RELEASE IT. Take your attention off the trigger – the effect - (the angry person, the screaming baby, the unco-operative child, the nagging or maybe unmotivated partner) and stop and FEEL the emotion coming in, then ask (asking is very important to help you go deeper into it) “What is the anger / hopelessness / fear…etc” REALLY about?  Ask “Why”? Take all MIND stuff, intellect, rational thinking out of the way and FOCUS completely on the FEELING until you begin to KNOW the CAUSE of this emotional hurt.

Behind anger could be deep sadness (it usually is, or fear).  It helps if you have someone with you who wants to help and who can ask you the why questions.

What are YOU attracting this situation for? Why does the same thing keep happening again & again?  What soul injury have you got?  The reason life gives us situations is to trigger the feeling, so we can look at it and fully process it to heal.  Processing means feeling the emotion/s fully, without any effort on your part, the memories of the original time (the cause) will flash into your mind. 

Cry if you feel to – 1 minute, 1 hour, 1 week – whatever it takes.  Throw sticks, golf balls, hit pillows – let your self feel it and release it fully. Write a journal, jump, run or kick.

Have you noticed how we are so NOT ok with our children feeling their emotions??  They hurt themselves and we suppress their crying with “You’re okay, up you hop”  - or even worse “Don’t be a cry baby that didn’t hurt”.  What are WE projecting at our children??

An example for you is my own experience with releasing anger. Yelling into a pillow has never ‘done it’ for me and it seems when I would focus on the EVENT that triggered me and got angry at that, I would only end up with a sore throat & feeling drained. Well, I finally ‘got it’ recently.  I removed myself from the situation (my children) and let go of what “they did” and focused on the feeling inside me.  I knew I had to throw something  - stick, no that didn’t do it – golf balls – YES! And I had to throw them at something that made sound – a piece of corrugated iron.  OHH! How good that felt to ME! I only needed about 10 throws with full feeling, then the next one just didn’t have the charge. I did one more, and no, no charge. What a relief, I had let it out without projecting the anger onto my children and without hurting anyone, anything or my throat.  (The next processing was different – sticks and a yell – and this time the yell didn’t hurt my throat because I let go of the EVENT that triggered me, and instead felt the deeper emotion). Now when I was feeling the anger, flashes of memory came up of when I was younger, and although I didn’t get to the root CAUSE of this injury that time, I took a big step closer.

99% of our emotional injuries come from our time of conception & in utero through to childhood – all the emotional injuries our parents never dealt with, we have now – but it’s our responsibility totally, to stop projecting our anger/ fear /guilt / grief etc onto others and OWN our feelings, processing them fully until we get the realisation of where they come from.

We all know we hold emotions in the body – sore muscles, dis-ease & illness, colds, sore throats etc, so think of this as removing this emotion that is ‘stuck’ in our body/soul once and for all.

Once the old stuff starts releasing – and for some of us that’s 35+ years of ‘stuff’ – we will get to a point of being “up to date” so to speak.  This means, there will be NO MORE past emotional injuries kept in the body, and we will be totally in the moment – if something triggers an instant emotion within us, we will process it IMMEDIATELY and there will be no accumulation in the body.  How fantastic and liberating does that sound!!??

Maybe you have experienced thinking a thought then the feeling comes – well, we have been of the belief that the thought generates the feeling, change the thought and the feeling will go – yes that is true to a point.  HOWEVER, the question is WHY AM I THINKING THIS THOUGHT???  The thought is being “produced” (and sometimes constantly no matter how many affirmations we do) to show us the FEELING/EMOTION that needs releasing fully.

Our children are so in the moment with their feelings, although, unfortunately, they have already taken on our emotional hurts/injuries either from “inheritance” or projection.  Do you glare at your kids with a disapproving look?  Have you ever raised a hand to threaten them with a smack?  Do you scowl and tell them to be quiet?  These are all PROJECTIONS of our emotions.  Look, this isn’t an easy one, and I am learning as I go. 

All I can say is, I am being triggered daily – sometimes 30 times a day (every 10 minutes sometimes) – and it is simply to show ME what is within ME.  What do you squeeze out of an orange? Orange juice, right – because that’s all it has in it. Not lime, not guava, but orange.  What is squeezed out of you?  Fear, guilt, shame, sadness, anger or unworthiness? (Unworthiness is a HUGE one for most of us women). It’s not the squeezer (trigger) it’s the emotion you need to release.

Let your kids see you emotionally processing – and let them know IT’S NOT THEM that has done it, but you have the emotion already inside of you, and it just needs to come out, without hurting anyone, damaging anything or projection at the other person. This is being so emotionally open – and it will not only heal you, it will heal your children, the people around you and Mother Earth.  If this brings up fear for you – fear of feeling emotions, then sit with it and take deep breaths, breath into the emotion…….breath into it and allow yourself to feel it, bit by bit.  Ask for Divine Love to come in, to help. 

May you be ready, may you connect to that divine love you are so worthy of receiving.

Divine Love to you all,

Tara x

Tara Yewdall